There are many ways, and many methods, in which people communicate with one another. And one of these reasons is when you need something from someone. For people in business, this can either be in the form of products or services. You may want to sell a product while the other party must find your product useful for his or her intention. You might be offering a product or service, whereas somebody looking for that needs to be happy that the product or service meets his or her requirements. In short, the way to get somebody or anybody to do what you want is to make them want to do it.

The best way to bring trouble upon yourself is by using violent means or intimidation to get your way. Yes, it’s possible but not advisable to use forceful methods because the results are undesirable and at times disastrous. Imagine if you force an employee to take a leave of absence for having apparently violated a company rule. The most likely result is that the relationship of trust between the employee (and possibly his or her trade union if they belong to one) and the management will be strained or completely broken.

To get what you want, give people what they want. What is it that others want? Probably similar to you. Physical health, family ties, financial security, spiritual growth, peace of mind, a successful career, and fame are the basic needs of people. What everyone really craves, which is not tangible yet is vital, is appreciation. If you’re appreciated, you feel much more important, you feel valued. Once you feel that you are valued and needed, it boosts your self-confidence, and gives you reason for your existence.

Just how do you give somebody the feeling of importance? Say it, act it; just give it freely, honestly, and wholeheartedly. It may be literal to say you appreciate what the other person has done for you, but it will nonetheless make him or her feel more valued. As the recipient it is sometimes tricky to put into words that feeling of being valued; however it is still a genuine feeling beyond price.

Try pre-empting importance; indicate to another person that whatever it is you want from him or her will provide them with that sense of importance. Let’s take charity for example. A recipient wants or needs contributions from the giver. It can either be material or service contribution, or both. Even before the act itself, the giver somehow expects appreciation from the recipient and this will give him a boost of importance.Appreciation may not necessarily be in words. A smile and/or a pat would suffice and they can come from both giver and recipient. The giver shows his feeling of being appreciated. The recipient shows his feeling of appreciation for the gift. Somehow magic or chemistry takes place. It’s a feeling both parties would enjoy happening many times over.

Are you aware that the feeling of importance, brought about by compliments and appreciation, is good for your health, mentally and physically? Whether you are the giver or recipient, it is good for both. Medical findings exist which substantiate the health benefits that come from such positive appreciation. The brain cells are stimulated by regular and frequent feelings of importance and this all promotes the feeling of good health. In short, feeling important is important to your quality of life.

What better way is there to boost the feelings of others than by demonstrating your appreciation for their work? In fact the only thing that’s better than appreciation is… More appreciation!

Our course is therefore clear: we should be going out and showing how much we appreciate the efforts of all those in our circle of friends, in our work environment, in fact to whoever we are in contact with. Let’s do it!

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